The Most Important Things Christian Parents Lack

2010 February 18

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Do Not Hinder Them (Child Rearing)


Some of the MOST IMPORTANT things Christian parents might lack in parenting:
1)  DISCIPLINE – Children should be given consistent, unsurprising discipline for a consistent, simple standard.
2)  FORGIVENESS – Children can’t be free of sin, unless someone frees them from it.  Allowing sin to go unchecked, and unconvicted makes them keep their sin. But forgiveness is not ingoring sin.  Forgiveness requires us to call sin evil first.  Then it allows us to highlight the depth of sin, at the same time as extending grace.  Children should be told outloud that they are forgiven.  I even suggest ritualizing the repetition by the child that “I am forgiven.”  I make of point of emphasizing “I will always love you because you are my child, no matter how many times you sin in this way.  You are mine, and I will always be yours.”
3)  PARENTAL REPENTANCE – this means you have to tell your children that you know it when you sin.  They know when we sin too.  If we don’t recognize it in front of them, we make ourselves visible liars.  They will learn to cover sin, and they will learn it from us.  Just like MAKING them say “I am forgiven,” we should MAKE them say “I forgive YOU.”  Make them forgive their siblings, and us.  You do NOT have to make sure that they FEEL it.  They are maleable when they are young, and they are created with molding in mind.  And before all else, they need to learn that forgiveness is the next step after repentance and confession.  It is ALWAYS what happens in a Christian family.  It has to go both ways to create a culture of interpersonal sanctification.  I suggest such repeated sentences as, “Thank you for acting like Jesus.  He is forgiving.  When you forgive you are acting like him.”  “Thank you for forgiving your brother, you will help him learn to be a forgiving person.  Now when you sin against him, he will also say that he forgives you.”  “Thank you for forgiving Daddy; we are a family who forgives sin.  I forgive you, and you forgive me.”  “If we didn’t forgive each other, we would become an unhappy family.”
The whole key here is that there IS a goal, so give them a path.  It is hard to find a way to a goal without a path.  Give them a path, and keep pushing them back onto it.  Over and over and over and over.  They will learn to do these things naturally.
Lest we say this is just making them Robots, remember that it leads to God-given JOY in our emotions when we live in this kind of family.  Remember, I said that you do not have to make them FEEL it in the moment.  This is because you are making them feel it over time.  The way that a culture of confession/repentance/forgiveness FEELS is so much better than one of concealing/hardening/embittering.  They will learn that they are being fed feast food, and when they eat the trash of bad judgment, as we all do from time to time, they won’t like it.  Then the mature choices they make will be personal and real and will flow out of the storehouse of family faith.

A Black President and the Policy that Kills Blacks

2008 November 5

In light of tonight’s victory – it is sad to see how a Black victory will continue to rob us of our Black citizenry.

The Following is from:

from the Article entitled: “Three Well Kept Secrets About Abortion”

by Sarah E. Hinlicky


And that’s the third secret. Abortion is racist. It has been ever since Margaret Sanger [Google search on “Margaret Sanger Racism”this link added by Luke] plotted to shrink the black population in this country by convincing blacks to limit their families through any means necessary, including contraception and abortion. Her Negro Project never reached any official status, but it may as well have. Since 1973, 10 million black babies have been aborted. (Don’t forget that a black baby is black from the moment of conception — there’s something the abortion activists don’t want you to think about.) The whole U.S. black population is around 31 million. So what could have been 25 percent of black America is wiped out without a trace. Even though blacks make up only 12 percent of the nation’s population [see statthis link added by Luke], they account for 30 percent of its abortions. Wonder why? Maybe it’s because 78 percent of all abortion clinics — usually staffed by white health care professionals — are located in or near minority neighborhoods. And you thought lynchings were as bad as it got in this country. They pale in comparison to abortions. (If you don’t believe me, click over to and see for yourself.)

Equally stunning are the legal parallels between abortion in the 20th century and slavery in the 19th. The Supreme Court decided in the Dred Scott case of 1857 that black slaves are not people, but property, because they are not protected by the Constitution. Consider these statements from the Scott case: “The word ‘citizen’ in the Constitution does not embrace one of the Negro race.” “The Declaration of Independence does not include slaves as part of the people.” “Such provisions of the Constitution do not put it in the power of a single state to make out one of the Negro African race a citizen of the United States, and to endue him with the full rights of citizenship in every other state without their consent.” “The enslaved African race was not intended to be included in, and formed no part of, the people who formed and adopted the Declaration of Independence.” It doesn’t take much imagination to see the same sick logic at work in Roe v. Wade. The fetus is not a person; it is not named in the Declaration of Independence or the Constitution as part of the American community; the states are not allowed to decide for themselves how they’re going to handle the issue. The slave was the owner’s property, and at his disposal to keep or kill; the fetus is the mother’s property, at her disposal to keep or kill. Abolitionists were criticized for imposing their morality on slave owners; pro-lifers are criticized for imposing their morality on abortion activists and doctors. Slavery was protected by law then; abortion is protected by law now.


Princeton Law Professor Against Obama's Extremism

Princeton Law Professor Against Obama

Sandwiched between these two articles, I have placed this link (above) to the brilliant article by Princeton Law Professor Robert George showing just how far Obama goes to support abortions.


MLK’s niece: ‘Abortion a racist, genocidal act’

The niece of Martin Luther King, Jr., has used an appearance at a Black History Month event in Washington, DC, to reject the claim that her famous uncle supported abortion rights for women.

Dr. Alveda King says although her uncle — the late civil rights leader Martin Luther King, Jr. — accepted an award from Planned Parenthood in 1966, the abortion group had a “hidden agenda” at the time. “I don’t want anybody to be confused by thinking that Dr. King could condone the violent death of the little babies, and the violent consequences that women suffer,” King clarifies. “I’m post-abortive myself. I’ve suffered … and it was a secret in my family for too long. And so now we’re here today to speak out on behalf of those who cannot speak for themselves. Abortion is a racist, genocidal act.”

King was one of several black pro-life leaders who met in Washington yesterday to celebrate their ethnicity and decry abortion and its disproportionate effect on blacks. And during a news conference at the Family Research Council, Dr. Johnny Hunter, president of the Life Education and Resource Network, predicted that at some point in America abortion would be abolished, just like slavery and Jim Crow laws.

“The way of the wicked does not last forever, and that’s why we get to celebrate Black History Month,” says Hunter. “Because all throughout black history [there have] been blacks who have taken a stand no matter where the people were when they got here. By the time they left this earth, we were a little bit better off.”

Hunter declared that in merely three days time in America, the abortion industry “kills more blacks than the KKK ever lynched.”

Baby Number 3 – and Paedocommunion

2007 October 11

Welch Baby Number Three is on the way. We are in week four, so pray for stability. Fragility of the situation is characteristic of the first trimester. This gives me the opportunity to reflect on the question, when does faith begin, leading to the further question about infant communion:

I just want to point at some verses quickly, and I will take up the topic more in coming days.

Psalm 22.9-10 says:

Yet you are he who took me from the womb;
you made me trust you at my mother’s breasts.
On you was I cast from my birth,
and from my mother’s womb you have been my God.

Again, Psalm 71.5-6 relates these ideas to us:

For you, O Lord, are my hope,
my trust, O LORD, from my youth.
Upon you I have leaned from before my birth;
you are he who took me from my mother’s womb.
My praise is continually of you.

Further more, Ps 8.2 :

Out of the mouth of babies and infants,
you have established strength because of your foes,
to still the enemy and the avenger.

And the famous passage where “infants” are carried to Jesus for blessing, Mt 19.13-15:

Then children were brought to him that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples rebuked the people, but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” And he laid his hands on them and went away.

[I say “infants” because that is what Luke says – confirmed somewhat by the idea that they were brought to him, instead of coming on their own. In Mark’s account, Jesus is indignant at the withholding of these infants from the blessing of their creator – and in all three accounts they, without age, are old enough to possess citizenship in the Kingdom. See the Luke and Mark passages.]